December 30, 2007

"IF U BE MY BODYGUARD, I CAN BE YOUR LONG LOST PAL"

I wake up early and trod across the hall to wish my dad a jolly "good morning!" When I begin leaving his room, he questions: "Where are u going? To wake up your brother again, I guess?"

"Naah dad," I reply smiling, "I am way past that stage."

It's amusing to know that there used to be a point in my life, when my entire world literally revolved around my brother's. He always slept in late, and I being a morning bird would 'rise and shine' early(as the saying goes). So I used to make it a point to wake him up, not because he'd ask me to, but because I would love to annoy him that way. It's a silly little thing which all younger sisters do, I being one of them. My brother would groan in response, perhaps even muster all his energy to throw a pillow at me, and I would duck triumphantly, winning yet again--and thats how our mornings would begin.

My brother and I always shared a closely-knit relationship, he was not the stereotypical 'bhaiya': over-protective, over-possessive; nope he was, different. As a child, whenever the two of us got down to fighting, I sprung my nails out and scratched him all over, while the poor thing couldn't even hit me back because he never thought it was right thing for him to do (or maybe he did hit me, its fortunate for him that I just don't remember).

The two of us always understood each other (most of the times): as I grew older I learnt the profound technique of saving his butt [keeping mum about his escapades and well, his ladies ;) ], he never backed out from returning the favour.

He was not protective lad, but a concerned one. He kept out of my life, gave me the discretion of making my own decisions (even if they were the most stupid ones), but always prepared me for a lecture that would follow inevitably. Now, his lectures would be basically suffused with weird metaphors (ones which would make me twist my brows a million times), silly puns, lame jokes (which made me laugh hysterically) but were ironically, laced with logic--a 'lecture' which would take 5 minutes of his time as well as mine, but would drive home the most important point in my head. This was his way of handling me, and he handled me well.

He has been more of a friend than anything else. If I was low, down in those lousy doldrums, he took me out for a drink, made a comfortable space for me where I could tell him everything that bothered me the most and and he would provide me with the most sensible advice and make it sound the easiest as well. He laughed, ensured that I would laugh, and I would forget all the things that were on my mind and enjoy the moment, precisely because that's exactly what he expected from me.

However, it isn't as honky-dory with us always as it sounds. Even though both of us have grown and have matured, we still fight: it's an aspect inherent in our relationship and that's something we can never grow out of. Our fights are verbal, but we barely abuse because we respect each other. Sarcasm however, is a weapon we both use and subconsciously, we keep competing on whose argument is more cynical. The winner however can never be decided upon because our counter-dialogues are eventually intervened by either my grand father or my mother--dad just yawns and ignores the whole thing (he'd rather stay out of it). Typical, I know.

My brother is the one who introduced me to English music when he was in the seventh grade of schooling and I was in class five. We had gone on this trip to the mountains, and it is there when he first made me listen to the Eagles and Simon and Garfunkel. Ecstatic, I learnt all the lyrics and we both used to sing all the songs together in the car. 'The Boxer' became one of our favourite songs of all times. I think this is where our friendship really began.

This is the way we were and perhaps still are. Two very different souls and even though that boy never tells me that he adores me, I know he does. I don't know what encouraged me to write this piece down, but writing it made me remember all the great times we two have/had spent together--times which I had forgotten, but have loved to remember once again.

6 comments:

Renovatio said...

I'm usually glad to see the results of my rather often mis-clicks while perusing the blogs I regularly read, and here, again, I'm glad to see the results.

Just don't forget, there's a ton more lovely memories you have coming yet, along with the ones you have and had :)

risha; said...

i have an older brother too. our lives are unfortunately too splintered- he lives across an ocean, or perhaps i do. we are both similar and dissimilar. we get along and we do not. my memories of him are interspersed with hatred, competitiveness and of course, adoration. he is my big brother, flawed and assholish. but still, y'know?

sibling bonds are hard to break. even across oceans. whether you get along or not. :)

The Cat said...

my brother. bloody arse just ate my chips. grrr. :P you know how hasho is. :D

five_silver_rings said...

renovatio: still trying to figure out what mihi quoque means.

Persona non grata: Yep, sibling bonds are hard to break, this may soud cliched, but there is always something special between the siblings. No matter how ur brother treated u, I am sure u guys still love and respect one another--and thats what matters :)

Aaki: Yes, I do know hasho, and believe u and i, he is a great keep and a great brother, because even though he is younger, he ain't a pain in the arse ;)
Cheers Hasho!

Renovatio said...

Latin for 'Me too'. A requisite new year post :p

The Cat said...

Hasho snored and snored in my bed yesterday. Nothing could be better. Keep him. Gimme Leo any day.